It took me 18 months, but I think I’m finally finding my flow. I have enjoyed the first year and a half of Chloe’s life so much, and we are so grateful to have a lot of support from family and friends. But today was a day that I felt was working especially well, and it made me feel like I’d reached some momentous occasion. She ate her breakfast well today – made a mess but had so much fun. She played with her toys while I did laundry, dishes, swept, and cleaned up some clutter. We laughed and played. We had so much fun! That’s not to say that we don’t always have fun, but it’s not always easy to get a lot done when she’s awake.
There are a few key ingredients of course.
- The right mood – There are days when Chloe is very interested in independent play, and there are days when all she wants is Mama. The key is to be ready to jump into action when she’s occupying herself, because you never know how long these moods will last.
- Options for fun – Part of the key for me today was to have different activities to entertain her in different parts of our home. She was in a particularly musical mood, playing with her toy piano, so when she wandered into the kitchen while I was trying to do some dishes, I grabbed a pot and a spoon and she went to town on her drum.
- Be flexible – Remember that not every day is going to be the same; and really, what fun would that be? Some days will be happy, others cranky. Some days will be a two hour nap and others might only be thirty minutes.
When you can tune out other obligations and just revel in the time spent with your child, every day can feel like it flows. I know that I had days before today that went really well, were full of fun and not too stressful, but I may not have been paying enough attention to really appreciate them. From here on out I will, and I’ll continue loving every minute that I get to spend with this amazing little girl!
What makes you feel like you’re in the flow of motherhood? Share your story in the comments.
Peace, Love, and Wellness,