What I Learned in My “I Want One” Phase

fertility, preconception healthFour years ago I was deep in my ‘I Want One’ phase. We were just about at the point where we decided we would start trying in 6 months and it was time for me to decide what those 6 months would look like.


I could continue to drive my husband crazy with my “I want one” comments every time I saw a baby, and I could keep telling him about the signs that were popping up telling me it was time (I’ll tell you the highchair story another day).


I had another option – I could actually spend these months preparing for this amazing time.


For those of us who know that we want to be mamas one day, we have been given such an amazing opportunity to support our children starting when they are just a dream in our hearts.


Life gets trickier once pregnancy and motherhood become part of our identity, our daily life (I’ll be talking about this in tomorrow’s newsletter), so when we have the foresight to know what we want in our future, planning for that can bring us so much empowerment and confidence.


A dear friend wrote on her blog this week about clearing clutter and preparing for visions of the future.  She and her husband envision having a beautiful and inviting library in their home one day, so clearing clutter by getting rid of books that they aren’t currently using didn’t feel right for them.  Instead, they created space to store these books, which are the foundation for part of their future.


It’s not crazy to plan ahead sometimes, especially when it comes to our health, and to our family’s health.  I bought The Complete Organic Pregnancy a good year before we made the ‘6 months’ decision because I knew what I wanted for my future.  Four years ago when we solidified our plan a bit more, I started to take action.


Here’s a bit of what I learned:


Lasting change doesn’t happen overnight


You can’t shift your habits just by wanting to – you have to be ready and you have to do the work


It’s more than just reading all the books you can get your hands on (that just leads to overwhelm)


Support and accountability are musts for most of us


You can’t fight the process, you have to feel the flow and do what works for you in this moment


I’d love to hear from you about this, because it’s such a fun time of self-exploration and growth.


If you’re already a mama, what did you do to prepare yourself for pregnancy or what do you wish you had done?


If you’re in that “I Want One” phase (doesn’t have to be as intense as mine was!) or you think you might want to be a mama one day in the future, what do you know you could do now to prepare yourself for that time?


Peace, Love, and Wellness,

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  1. Stacy Uncorked

    I went through many years of the “I want one” syndrome – after years of infertility and several miscarriages, when I found out I was pregnant with my miracle baby I was sort of caught off-guard since I was 5-1/2 months along…so I crammed 9 months of prep work into 3-1/2. 🙂


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