Why the Health of Your Relationships Matters before You Start Trying to Conceive

Anxiety. Waiting. Insecurities. Hormones. Fears. Excitement. Identity. Big Changes.

I could keep this post as simple as that. With any of those, it’s important to have a partner you can lean on, trust, and communicate with as challenges and triumphs arise.

creating fertile groundAll of us, even when we’re in the best and healthiest relationships of our lives, have things that we can be working on and so do our partners. You are about to embark on a life changing adventure together, and it can be incredibly helpful to work out some of the kinks before diving into this time.

Before you start trying to conceive, a phase of this journey that no one can predict how long it will last.

Before your hormones are all over the place and you struggle to keep your emotions in check.

Before baby comes and you find yourselves overjoyed and sleep deprived all at once.

Before it sets in how much has changed, it’s important to be able to communicate what’s most important to you, individually and as a couple, and it’s important to know that you can always count on each other.

Your relationship will shift.

Your communication skills will need to be clearer than ever.

Your money stories will come up and possibly collide.

Your sex life will change but it can be in positive ways.

That’s why I am bringing 4 experts to share with you next week during the Creating Fertile Ground Virtual Conference. They will cover these key pieces and share with you what you can be doing now so you have a strong foundation, built together, from the very beginning of this journey.

While you wait to soak up their knowledge, I encourage you to start thinking about one thing in your partnership that you would like to strengthen. If you feel comfortable, please share it in the comments below and get the conversation started!

Peace, Love, and Wellness,

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10 thoughts on “Why the Health of Your Relationships Matters before You Start Trying to Conceive

  1. Andrea

    Thanks Xandra for your insight. I have a friend wanting to start a family and I will most definitely share this with her. The virtual conference sounds great. I bet the participants will get a lot out of it.

  2. Wendy

    This has been on my mind a lot lately as my husband and I begin to lay the groundwork for having a baby. The one thing I would REALLY like to strengthen in my relationship is communication. I’ve noticed that when life get stressful, our communication breaks down and old stuff comes up, which prevents us from speaking honestly from the heart. We have a wonderful relationship otherwise, so I’m hoping that we can figure out how to remain clear and loving when times get tough (as they inevitably will with a baby added to the mix)!

    1. Xandra O'Neill Post author


      You are going to LOVE day 3 of the conference! And how exciting that you are laying the groundwork for baby!

  3. jennifer

    Xandra, it is so great that you are shedding light on the topic of strengthening your relationship before baby comes. With baby comes little sleep (ours is turning 2 this summer and still doesn’t sleep through the night!) and I don’t think many people are quite aware of how much it really does change everything until they experience it themselves. It is so important to have a really strong foundation first, especially in terms of communication. This is excellent you have put a virtual conference together to help support others in preparing for their amazing journey of parenthood by first strengthening their partnership.

    1. Xandra O'Neill Post author

      Thanks Jennifer! It’s amazing what the simple act of awareness can do to shift an experience!

  4. MaryJo Briggs

    Xandra I absolutely love this. Wish I had this info about 25 years ago! I know this conference will be a huge success and you will be making such an impact in people’s lives! Very powerful.


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