Category Archives: Sacred Vision

The Truth about New Year’s Resolutions

At the end of every year, it seems that we start planning for all that we want to accomplish in the coming year.  At some point, around February or so, we often realize that we’ve already lost our motivation to keep our new habits in place.  Why is this and what can you do to create lasting change in 2012?

There are 3 keys elements that are often missing when we try to make big change in our life – the right system, support, and accountability.  With these in place, your chances for following through increase significantly.  I’ll tell you a little bit about each and how they can help you follow through for real in 2012.

 

  • The Right System  — When it comes to anything in life, whether it’s keeping your house clean, changing your eating habits, or getting into an exercise routine, the right system is crucial.  We are all so different and our bodies have different needs so the same system won’t work for all of us equally.  Have you ever noticed that two people may try the exact same diet but get completely different results?  Or have you failed to get yourself to the gym regularly, but once you checked out that yoga class and got hooked, you found a regular exercise routine that worked for you?  Finding someone who has a system that is tailored to your needs will help you much more than wasting time sifting through books looking for which “solution” to try next.  If it’s the proper fit for you, you will enjoy the process and feel more motivation to follow through on your goals. 

 

  • Support – It’s always nice to feel supported in the things you do, but it is actually more than nice – it plays an important role in your ability to stay focused.  When you feel confident that you are going about things in a way that is right for you, having others recognize that and helping you to create space to make it happen makes the entire process less stressful.  Having someone who can guide you and offer you resources and advice as you need it also reminds you that you’re not going at it alone.  Feeling supported in your goals also helps you to follow through with more ease because you have help to make your plans seem do-able instead of pie-in-the-sky promises that you know you’ve broken to yourself in the past.

 

  • Accountability – If no one knows that you want to lose 10 pounds, eat more fresh foods or cut down on sugar, it will be much more difficult to get it done.  If you set a goal to try a new food each week, or cut down on dessert and no one knows, it gives you free range to “cheat” or fall off the wagon.  This often leads to guilt and feeling out of control of your own life.  Simply by having someone to hold you accountable, you will feel more drive to stick to your plans.  You’ll want to be able to brag about how well you did with eating greens, and you might be pushed to take it beyond your original goals – not only did you eat greens 3 times a week like you aimed for, you did it 5 times and it felt so easy!  Reaching or exceeding your goals and being able to share that with someone increases self-esteem and will make the path to change feel even easier.

 

Do you see how having the Right System, Support, and Accountability can make the idea of new years resolutions seem so much more manageable?  Let’s chat to see if I can give you the support you’re looking for.  If it feels like a good fit, I promise you’ll get support and accountability from me, and you’ll follow through like never before, and feel amazing about the entire process!

 

Peace, Love, and Wellness,

Xandra

Looking Back and Forward

The end of the year often finds many of us feeling at a crossroads as we look back at the year and start to make plans for the year ahead.  It can be easy to get caught up in the things that we didn’t accomplish, the losses and the regrets.  Make a point this week to focus on the amazing things that happened in 2011 – new career opportunities, new or rekindled friendships, new life and newfound joys.

As we gear up for 2012 we can quickly become overwhelmed by all that we want to do.  Vow this year to keep it simple, understand why you set specific goals, and be realistic about where you need support so that you can make things happen.  If you don’t have much time in the crazy hustle and bustle of the rest of the year, find a few minutes to take the following actions and you’ll be in great shape for remembering an awesome 2011 and preparing for an even better 2012!

  • Make a 2011 gratitude list – You can keep this simple or get really creative with this.  The most important thing is to make a list of at least 12 things that were really amazing in your life this year.  Keep this somewhere visible to remind you what an incredible journey this past year has been.  You can write it on a plain piece of paper, add some color and photos – you can even make a gratitude scrapbook or collage if you want to make a fun project out of it.  Reflecting on the positive helps us remember how good life can be to us when we’re not even trying.
  • Set realistic goals – When thinking ahead to 2012, don’t overwhelm yourself by vowing to make huge changes overnight.  As you write your list of goals, also explore what reaching those goals will mean for you in other areas of your life.  You will find that focusing on a few really important goals will impact your life in large ways without feeling as challenging.
  • Get support – Be okay with the fact that lasting change takes time and requires help.  Let those around you know that these goals are important to you and ask them to back you up when you need it.  Support can come in many forms – working towards a goal with a partner, getting help so you can create space for yourself, or finding someone who will stretch you as you challenge yourself.

Peace, Love, and Wellness,

Xandra

Our Bodies as Teachers

Our bodies are amazing.  They teach us new things about ourselves everyday.  My body has taught me so many lessons in the last two years – I grew and birthed a baby! I remember early on in my pregnancy I had a moment where I thought, this is bizarre, I’m growing a person inside of me.  It may have felt bizarre in that moment, but it was also completely natural. A year ago today, my body taught me more about myself than I think I had ever learned before or will ever learn in the future.  I tapped into part of myself that I never knew was there.

 

I had planned all along, even before I became pregnant, to have a natural childbirth.  While I was pregnant with Chloe I came to terms with the fact that although I wanted no medications I might need them.  Preparing myself for any situation allowed me to have deeper trust in myself and in my caretakers. I knew deep down that I could do without the medication, and my body came through for me.  My husband, my mother, my midwives, my doula, and my nurses could all tell you with better detail exactly how I did it, or maybe they couldn’t – maybe they were helpers and observers to an energy that was all my own.  All I know is that I did it and it was the most empowering experience of my life.  And I got Chloe!! What an amazing reward.

 

Looking back a year later, Chloe has grown so much and she continues to inspire me everyday.  She is a large part of why healthful living is so important to me.  She taught me, most importantly: I can do anything I put my mind to.  So often we convince ourselves out of doing the things that are most important to us.  We tell ourselves that we can’t really reach our goals – they are too lofty, or we don’t have enough time, discipline or strength.  We set our own limitations but if we allow ourselves the capacity to dream ever upward, and to reach down into the depths of our being to find our unique inner power, we can accomplish anything!

 

As Spring begins, slowly but surely, think about how you can break free from the safe womb that you have created for yourself in your life.  It is easy to become comfortable even with the things that make us unhappy, because we often feel that it is easier to deal with a bad situation than to take the action required to change it. What changes have you wanted to make in your life that you haven’t yet?  What has been holding you back?  Most importantly – how will you feel once you allow yourself to birth your new vision for your life?

 

Peace, Love, and Wellness,

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